Mom Videotapes Daughter’s Wish For Her Divorced Parents
October 1, 2015 by West Coast ADR
Divorce is a difficult experience for all involved, but it can be hardest on the children. Young children especially don’t usually have the coping skills to understand what’s going on, why their parents aren’t going to live together anymore and what life is going to look like moving forward. The more civil and friendly the parents can be during and after the divorce, the better it is for the children. One Canadian girl has gone viral after giving her parents advice on how to accomplish this.
The 6-year-old British Columbia girl was videotaped by her mother after she heard her divorced parents arguing. According to reports, she asked to talk to her mother after she heard the fight, and her mother recorded the conversation. In the video widely dispersed online, the girl can be seen telling her mother that she wants both her mother and her father “to be placed, be settled, and be friends.”
The girl continued, telling her mother that if the 6-year-old girl could be nice, both of her parents should be able to as well. She says, “I want you, Mom, my dad, everyone to be friends….If we live in a world where everyone’s being mean, everyone’s going to be a monster.” The girl’s mother responded to video, saying “I was stunned….She is teaching me.”
Divorces are by nature an adversarial process, but making a conscious effort to think about the other person and keep emotions out of the discussions can help immensely. For those interested in a positive divorce, mediation or arbitration may help.
Source: The Huffington Post Canada, “Little Girl’s Wish For Her Divorced Parents: ‘Be Friends’,” Rhianna Schmunk, Sep. 21, 2015
Divorce is a difficult experience for all involved, but it can be hardest on the children. Young children especially don’t usually have the coping skills to understand what’s going on, why their parents aren’t going to live together anymore and what life is going to look like moving forward. The more civil and friendly the parents can be during and after the divorce, the better it is for the children. One Canadian girl has gone viral after giving her parents advice on how to accomplish this.
The 6-year-old British Columbia girl was videotaped by her mother after she heard her divorced parents arguing. According to reports, she asked to talk to her mother after she heard the fight, and her mother recorded the conversation. In the video widely dispersed online, the girl can be seen telling her mother that she wants both her mother and her father “to be placed, be settled, and be friends.”
The girl continued, telling her mother that if the 6-year-old girl could be nice, both of her parents should be able to as well. She says, “I want you, Mom, my dad, everyone to be friends….If we live in a world where everyone’s being mean, everyone’s going to be a monster.” The girl’s mother responded to video, saying “I was stunned….She is teaching me.”
Divorces are by nature an adversarial process, but making a conscious effort to think about the other person and keep emotions out of the discussions can help immensely. For those interested in a positive divorce, mediation or arbitration may help.
Source: The Huffington Post Canada, “Little Girl’s Wish For Her Divorced Parents: ‘Be Friends’,” Rhianna Schmunk, Sep. 21, 2015